Please don't wait until things get so bad and you are so angry and disappointed and full of hate and unresolved issues. Before you get to that state, please go and see a qualified Counsellor or Therapist, (not a friend or family member) they are there to give counsel. They are not Magicians but they can guide you in the right direction.
THE TRUTH TOLD
When you speak to your partner, friend or whoever, be sure you speak the truth then you will never ever have to remember what you said. (Quote unknown)
THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG WILLY
THE PERFECT WOMAN
A friend asked a gentleman how it is that he never married?
Replied the gentleman, “Well I guess I just never met the right woman...I guess I’ve been looking for the perfect girl”
“Oh, come on now,” said the friend, “Surely you have met at least one girl that you wanted to marry?”
“Yes, there was one girl....once. I guess she was the perfect girl...the only perfect girl i ever met. She was just the right everything...I really mean that she was the perfect girl for me.”
“Well, why didn’t you marry her?” asked the friend.
“She was looking for the perfect man,” He replied!
Hints – The 4 “Be’s”
1. Be happy no matter what (It is contagious)
2. Be Available:
3. Be Responsible
4. Be Sensitive at all times. Especially to your Partner and Family)
From The relationship Watchdog. WILLY
Don't you dare wait until 14 February every year to appreciate your partner. Do it on a daily basis.
Don't ever stand accused of robbing a friend, a family or the world of someone that could have been a real friend, companion and someone that could make a difference. Don't ever give up. BY WILLY CONRADIE
Do you sometimes feel you don't have enough hands, feet or time to do a balancing act? Read Willy's latest book: "A Real Balancing Act"
You don't marry one person; you marry three ;
the person you think they are,
the person they are, and
the person they are going to become as a result of being married to you. Richard Needham
Never apologize for showing feelings. When you do so, you apologize for truth. Benjamin Disraeli
Your partner will forget what you saidforget what you did, But they will never forget how you made them feel."
So go out of your way to repeat this feeling over and over again.
“It is so easy to relate to a stranger, and yet so very difficult to talk openly and honestly to your partner….”
One of the ways to balance Work and Home is to put a value system in place. The beholder determines value of partner or family. One has to take a look at oneself and say, “My partner and family are the best in the world. No matter what! Even if I do get mad at them and they get mad with me every now and then. They are still the best things in my life, and I cannot stand to be away from them for any length of time.”
What I am trying to say, is that only you can value what is treasure and precious to you. The more you verbalize your thoughts about your loved ones, the more valuable they become.
Did I not say your family is just as valuable as monetary investments? You appraise those, but have you noticed how little people boast about partners or families? Its your decision, if you buy a new car every body must see it,and you want to show everybody close to you, have you ever done this for your loved ones, Boast about your partner and see new meaning in your love life and famly.
THE: THE RELATIONSHIP -WATCHDOG. WILLY
Love is not just feelings, it is also an act of your will.
No Matter what we neglect it will fall apart. This goes for your relationship/marriage as well. So never stop working on your relationship marriage. I ask couples and individuals how they would spell marriage and they say “easy Marriage” and “I say No, you spell it like this WORK.
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment.
The next week the man realized he would need his wife to wake him at 05:00 am for an early flight to Sydney. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence, he finally wrote on a piece of paper, “Please wake me at 05:00 am.”
The next morning the man woke up, only to discover that it was 09:00 am and that he had missed his flight.
Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife had not woken him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed ...it said: “It’s 5 am, WAKE UP !!!”
Laughter and having a good laugh together is good for your relationship.
Its 3pm my question to you is have you phoned your partner, friend or a relative , not to moan or complain but to find out how their day is and to encourage them and leave them with a smile in their face.
Getting together is a beginning
Staying together is progress
Working together is success
"The gem cannot be polished without friction nor man without trials." --Confucius
"The darkest hour has only sixty minutes." --Morris Mandel
"We must find time to stop and thank the people who have made a difference in our lives." --Dan Zadra (This includes your partners and loved ones) Willy
Why is it so easy to relate to a stranger, and yet So very difficult to talk openly to your partner??
How come we are so successful at work, business, sport and other activities, yet we don't get it together in our Marriage/Relationship!!
My answer is....the successful business has a plan in place and I don't know of too many people that have a plan for their marriage and relationship. Buying a house and having children is what couples do, it is not necessary a plan.
As a Coach I say "don't wait until it is so bad that it is not repairable Before you seek help"
Our partners ought to be angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
With this thought let me say the reason partners have trouble is they have forgotten how much fun they used to have with each and how much laughter and enjoyment they had.
Love will find a way -
everything else will find an excuse
“Let Love be your greatest aim.”
A MAN’S DESPERATE APOLOGY
What if I said sorry and gave you a big kiss! How about sorry, a big kiss and dinner at Pete’s place! Well, what about sorry, a big kiss, dinner at Pete’s place and a chic movie! What if I threw in 500 bucks!
My question is to both partners why wait till it gets this desperate? I believe we don't keep close watch of the state of our relationship then suddenly we realize our relationship is in bige trouble.