Through the years of counseling I have noticed that one of the first things that disappear in relationships is kissing. Some years ago I woke up one morning and asked my wife what was missing in our marriage, something we used to do and don’t do anymore with surprise she said “I don’t know.” Well I said I don’t either but I will find out. About three weeks later I got out of bed and went down the passage and then it clicked, I went back to the room and said “I know! when did we stop kissing good morning? and Pat said “I don’t know” but we both realized that we had stopped kissing good morning.
Now I know the morning is not really the time to give a open mouth kiss but you can give a closed mouth kiss and a hug, after all, you have just spent the night together and this is a kiss and a hug of appreciation for being able to share the relationship and night together. This is your partner and lover after all!!
Kiss more, and kiss longer. That’s what some researchers are advising as the health benefits of kissing are revealed.
Matthew Messina, DDS, a dentist and consumer advisor for the American Dental Association, says the extra saliva produced during kissing washes bacteria off your teeth, which can help break down oral plaque. Bryant Stamford, PhD, director of the health promotion center at the University of Louisville notes kissing can help you lose calories. “During a really, really passionate kiss,” he says, “you might lose two calories a minute – double your metabolic rate.” Others claim that kissing exercises the facial muscles.
Stress relief is another health benefit of kissing. Psychologist Joy Davidson, PhD, likens kissing to meditation. “It stops the buzz in your mind, it quells anxiety, and it heightens the experience of being present in the moment. It actually produces a lot of the physiological changes that meditation produces,” she says. The fact that kissing leads to touching is also a good thing. Touching and massaging release oxytocin, a hormone known to have a calming effect on the body.
WebMD explains many of the physiological effects kissing can have on the body, from boosting immunity to burning calories.
The Top 10 Health Benefits of Kissing...
Have been documented in medical studies offering amazing advantages for a long and healthy life.
- Those who kiss their partner goodbye each morning live five years longer than those who don’t.
- Kissing is great for self-esteem. It makes you feel appreciated and helps your state of mind.
- Kissing burns calories, 2-3 calories a minute and can double your metabolic rate. Research claims that three passionate kisses a day (at least lasting 20 seconds each) will cause you to loose an entire extra pound! It's time to start that kissing diet!
- Kissing is a known stress-reliever. Passionate kissing relieves tension, reduces negative energy and produces a sense of well being, lowering your cortisol ‘stress’ hormone.
- Kissing uses 30 facial muscles and it helps keep the facial muscles tight, preventing baggy cheeks! The tension in the muscles caused by a passionate kiss helps smooth the skin and increases the circulation.
- Kissing is good for the heart, as it creates an adrenaline which causes your heart to pump more blood around your body. Frequent kissing has scientifically been proven to stabilize cardiovascular activity, decrease blood pressure and cholesterol.
- Those who kiss quite frequently are less likely to suffer from stomach, bladder and blood infections.
- During a kiss, natural antibiotics are secreted in the saliva. Also, the saliva contains a type of anesthetic that helps relieve pain.
- Kissing reduces anxiety and stops the 'noise' in your mind. It increases the levels of oxytocin, an extremely calming hormone that produces a feeling of peace.
- The endorphins produced by kissing are 200 times more powerful than morphine.
I hope these kissing tips are useful so please start kissing again and fall in love again
and start your romance all over again. It is fun!!!!
I will talk about hugging in my next blog
FROM: THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG - WILLY