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THE TRUTH TOLD

 When you speak to your partner, friend or whoever, be sure you speak the truth then you will never ever have to remember what you said.    (Quote unknown)

 THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG WILLY

We are surrounded with negativity and moaning and groaning, so let’s turn the month of March into a positive month.

When I wake up in the morning and I am breathing that is my plus for the day, then I acknowledge where my strength comes from and give thanks. I then say good morning to my darling, special wife and am then ready for the day.

I heard someone once say that today is not a dress rehearsal it is the real thing, come six o’clock tonight and if you didn’t do what you set out to do there is nothing you can do to rectify the day.  It is gone, so make sure that when tomorrow comes use it to its fullest and at all times make sure you are positive and avoid all negativity.

Having said all this, we need to learn how to make our partners and others feel special.  Here is my point:  We use so much energy being angry and negative with ourselves, our partners and a many other people.  Let us turn this around and start being positive.  Wake up and make your partner feel special by saying something nice and positive to them and make him or her ready for the day.

 When you go to work and you think of one of your friends preferably male with male and female with female and not someone else’s partner, but a friend or family, go ahead give them a call and tell them they are special and they must have a good day.  We never hear this!  I tell you they will feel so good and will have a good day.      

 FROM: THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG – WILLY

Wishing all my blog readers a happy valentines day.

Just a word of caution for all those valentiners that have planned something special for their loved ones,  over the last couple of days don’t start some thing that you can’t finish.  You see valentines day isn’t just a 24 four hour thing, so what ever you have planned and done for your partner to make them feel special and loved  should be for the rest of your lives.

FROM: THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG WILLY

 Communication                          

A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment.

The next week the man realized he would need his wife to wake him at 05:00 am for an early flight to Sydney. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence, he finally wrote on a piece of paper, “Please wake me at 05:00 am.”

The next morning the man woke up, only to discover that it was 09:00 am and that he had missed his flight.

Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife had not woken him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed …it said: “It’s 5 am, WAKE UP !!!”

Laughter and having a good laugh together is good for your relationship.

FROM: THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG WILLY.

BEWARE                                  

The truths contained on this blog can change and enrich  your relationship and you as an individual if you dare to read them!!!

SO WATCH THIS SPACE!!!  

FROM: THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG WILLY     

 e-mail me info@willyconradie .co.za  for private comments.

How True

“It is so easy to relate to a stranger,

and yet so very difficult to talk

openly and honestly to your partner….”

From:  The Relationship Watchdog – Willy

Well, what do you know, 2011 is a couple of hours away, now starts the New Year resolutions.  Next year I am going to do this and that and so it goes on, comes end of January and not many of the good intentions are met and so year after year this goes on.

My heart is with relationships so this is where I will concentrate.  Do not make resolutions for you and your partner, concentrate on taking stock of the past year and admit where you went wrong.  Then plan on how you can improve together in making each other happy in 2011.

• Admit your mistakes               

• Listen to each other

• Give each other the benefit of the doubt.

• Don’t ever go to sleep angry with each other

• Let love rule the home and let love lead in all areas of your lives.  Love each other no matter what. Is that not why you got together in the first place??

My wish to all my bloggers is a happy and a prosperous New Year.

FROM:  THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG – WILLY

                                          Just a Quote

Your partner will forget what you said even forget what you did,

 But they will never forget how you made them feel.”

 So go out of your way to repeat this feeling over and over again. 

FROME THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG Willy.

KEEP THE LOVE RELATIONSHIP FIRES BURNING

Now, I enjoy braaing or, as the foreigners would say, having a barbeque, but I must confess that I am not skilled at making good fires. It is either too hot or it starts to die on me.

On a cold winters evening there is nothing as warm, cozy and romantic as a great big wood fire burning away, warming the whole place and making everybody feel, safe and comfortable.

A braai is always a nice social event, with a fire going, everybody standing around enjoying it and chatting away, laughing and nobody worrying about their tax or problems. “Why,” you and I ask?  Because the fire is creating the atmosphere of laughter, smiles and jokes flying around. There is a buzz, and if you want to keep the atmosphere, make sure the fire is burning even after the meat and food is done. Even a weekend away camping, after supper a nice big bon fire is beautiful. You can cuddle up with your loved one and not say a word yet love is in the air.

Some years ago Patsy and I went to a braai. It was a lovely home in a beautiful setting. With the fires going and everyone standing around talking and braaing, not all had cooked their meat yet when the fire started going out. The host and his friends tried everything to get it going but to no avail. Eventually, there were about three coals left. One of the guests came forward and said, “Let me try”. The first thing he did was move everybody away from the fire so that he had room to work with no interference. He then took a small spade and gently started moving ashes and dead coals away until the area around the coals was clean. No, he didn’t kill the coals and start a new fire; he took a piece of wood and an axe and started cutting small pieces of wood which he placed gently on the three remaining coals. He stepped back, bent forward and started blowing gently on the coals until the  wood started burning and in no time the fire was at full strength. Wow, what a story! But doesn’t this remind you of relationships and marriages in general?  The minute the fire starts dying and there are only two or three coals left we kill the love coals and move on to another relationship where you think the fire is burning.

 One of the reasons I believe the love fires die is because they were never set alight on the right foundation and by that I mean sex.  Sex is not a foundation that can keep love fires going it is based on feelings and thrills. Part of the real foundation is love, trust, commitment, caring and sharing till death us do part.

 Here are some tips on getting that dying fire in your relationship back on track:

(The first thing the man did when he was going to revive the coals was move the people away so they couldn’t interfere with his restorations plan)                                                        

1 This is exactly what couples must do.  Don’t get everybody involved with your relationship they are not professional so whatever advice they give is out of sympathy or sentiment which is nice but not constructive.

(The second thing he did was he took a little spade and cleared all the dead coals and burnt wood and exposed the three burning coals.)

2 Once again this is what the couples must do. Take time with yourself and then with your partner and scratch away all your hurts and disappointments. Write notes to each other, not with e-mail or sms, I said, write a note, explain what is bothering you, and say sorry where necessary so that you can work with the “coals.” If you can’t sort it out on your own see a counselor.

(The third thing the man did was take a piece of wood and cut it into tiny pieces and placed them gently on the three coals and then blew on the coals.)

3 The tiny pieces of wood represent laughter.  One of my favourite songs says “I want to get drunk on your laughter.”  Wow! What a statement!  When last did this happen to you and your partner? Another piece of wood is respect and another is caring.  Love unconditionally.  I always say “Love is not just a feeling; it is also an act of our will.”

In closing I want to tell you something about a friend of mine who loves watches, he will buy a watch for R2000 and when he is finished bragging about it you would think it is worth R5000.  While listening to him I realized we have bragging right on our partners, how many times have you heard someone bragging about their partner?                            

 FROM THE RELATIONSHIP WATCHDOG WILLY

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